Be mindful of your self-talk. It’s a conversation with the universe. – David James
As I am going through my journey of becoming my best self, I have found such an incredible amount of valuable practices, advice, wisdom and lessons to help me along the way. There is no denying that there is a cycle of thoughts, words, actions and attitude that impact everyday experiences. My latest challenge is what I say to myself and yes, I talk to myself a lot lol! I was so disappointed when I realised that the little voice in my head was the biggest negative Nancy I had ever met so I needed to take immediate action to turn her into a positive Polly.
Studies have shown that humans have anywhere from 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day but according to some research, as many as 80% of our thoughts are negative. This research really saddened me and got me thinking about my children’s future because self-talk patterns develop from the day you learn to talk, and I want nothing more than for my children to be happy. I hope that by changing my own self-talk patterns it will create a positive habit for my children too.
“You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your intentions and your intentions create your reality.” – Wayne Dyer
Did you eye roll when you saw the title of this post? You might consider affirmations to be unrealistic “wishful thinking” and that’s okay because I used to think the same too! Well I did A LOT of research and now that I understand how our brain works, I have a lot more faith that positive affirmations do work. Before you disregard the power of positive affirmations it’s important to know that an affirmation is really anything you say or think so chances are, you’re already using affirmations whether you know it or not.
“If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” – Sir Ken Robinson
I have watched this TED talk multiple times in my life including before my children were in school and multiple times after. I remember that before my eldest went to school I would watch the video and nod agreeing with the things Ken would say. I now have 2 children in school and when I watch this talk I’m still nodding but I also want to jump through the screen, give Ken a high 5 and share this video with all the people involved in putting together our education system.
“Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.”
~ Walt Whitman
I stumbled across this amazing quote and incredible picture while browsing the web recently and it took my breath away. I find myself getting trapped in the comfort of old habits or stuck dwelling in the shadows of the past. I feel unhappy in the direction i’m looking yet forget that I can simply turn around. You would think that by now I would have learnt that only I have control to make these changes but I guess that’s the beauty of personal growth and I definitely still have a long way to go.
“When there are things to do, give it everything you’ve got. When there is nothing to do, do nothing.” – Ajahn Brahm
My anxiety can make taking a break impossible. Our family is constantly on the go and although it can be exhausting I enjoy the feeling of accomplishment when I go to bed at night and being distracted from my thoughts. When I stop, even if it’s for a brief a moment I can feel my anxiety overwhelm me. I start thinking of things I should be doing or I feel consumed in guilt for not being busy and then I start worrying about things I normally don’t have time to even think about. It’s a mindset that has formed unhealthy habits over the years and I have noticed that even when I do have some “relax time” I often distract myself with my phone or the TV.
“Children learn to smile from their parents.” Shinichi Suzuki
I am a mum of two children, I have a son who is 7 and a daughter who is 5. I started writing this post with the intention to share all of the wonderful things that happen when you become a parent and although there are SO many amazing things that do happen I wouldn’t feel 100% authentic not talking about some of the struggles with some lighthearted humour.
So here is a list of the first 30 things that came to my mind about my experience with parenting so far.
I hope you enjoy and let me know if you can relate to any 😊
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
The quote above is from one of the most amazing speeches I’ve seen on YouTube given by Steve Jobs to the graduates of Stanford University in 2005. I watched it multiple times this week and the timing was perfect as yesterday was Australia day which also marks the anniversary of me becoming an Australian citizen and a day I always like to reflect on how much my life has changed.
“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”
It has been a whirlwind of a month and as we reach the end I am leaving behind what has been perhaps the most consistent part of my life for the last 7 years, my job.
I recently accepted redundancy which triggered a roller coaster of emotions that inevitably left me feeling mentally exhausted.
So why am I writing this post? Well this news has been a reminder to me that change is inevitable and we have to be open to it. Our thoughts are the key to how we view different situations and are ultimately what set us free.
So while I have felt uncertainty in this change I’m ready for whatever it brings. One thing I can be sure of is my passion for writing and becoming a life coach has been reignited and most importantly I cant wait to be a happier, more present mum and wife to my little family.
Thank you so much for reading ☮