3 Tips For Positive Self Talk

Be mindful of your self-talk. It’s a conversation with the universe. – David James

As I am going through my journey of becoming my best self I have found such an incredible amount of valuable practices, advice, wisdom and lessons to help me along the way. There is no denying that there is a cycle of thoughts, words, actions and attitude that impact everyday experiences. My latest challenge is what I say to myself and yes, I talk to myself a lot lol! I was so disappointed when I realised that the little voice in my head was the biggest negative Nancy I had ever met so I needed to take immediate action to turn her into a positive Polly.

Studies have shown that humans have anywhere from 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day but according to some research, as many as 80% of our thoughts are negative. This research really saddened me and got me thinking about my children’s future because self-talk patterns develop from the day you learn to talk and I want nothing more than for my children to be happy. I hope that by changing my own self-talk patterns it will create a positive habit for my children too.

Here are 3 quick tips to start your process

  • Mindfulness- Become aware of what you say to yourself throughout the day. We often start the day thinking about the things we don’t want to do or can’t do during the day which has a huge impact on the experiences we encounter. Set little reminders on your phone or sticky notes around the house to remind yourself to be aware of your thoughts so you can identify where you need change.
  • Find your trigger words- For me I have noticed I say, “I can’t” and “I won’t” way too much so I constantly have this on my radar. When I catch myself saying these phrases I replace them with “How can I” or “I choose” as it empowers me to open my mind and take control instead of giving up. For example, I caught myself saying “I can’t get all my studying done this month” so replaced it with “How can I get all my study done this month?” “I can’t” prevented me from thinking of ways around my situation where as “How can I” prompted me to find a solution to my problem. I now have a plan in place so I can get my study done and I feel far more positive and at ease.
  • Positive affirmations- Okay so you may roll your eyes at this one as there are probably a million books or cards out there with positive affirmations that people claim will change your life but guess what? Its true! If you create a habit to repeat a positive affirmation everyday that are focused on a goal or outcome your subconscious mind will create situations to make it happen. I have been repeating “My thoughts are under my control” as many times as I can throughout the day and I have noticed a positive change in being able to better control the frequency and severity of my anxiety.

Do you have a negative Nancy or a positive Polly floating around in your head? Dont feel defeated if negative Nancy is dominating at the moment as you CAN change by making some simple changes and I believe everyone has a positive Polly in there somewhere.

Thanks for reading xo

15 thoughts on “3 Tips For Positive Self Talk

  1. DreamingAtMyDesk

    Hey Natalie,

    I am so happy to have found your blog and to have read this post. I used to be a Negative Nandika (that’s my name!) and it took me about 4 years to change myself, but it was worth it. I completely agree with your thoughts and I found it surprising that I do follow what you have written.
    It takes time, but it sticks once you build a habit like that. Keep writing and posting. You have a new follower!


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    1. searchingformyinnerzen

      Hi Nandika (beautiful name by the way)
      Thank you so much for your feedback and I’m glad you could relate to my post. You should be so proud of yourself for making the change and being persistent with it. I love the quote “Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” ~ Jim Rohn.
      Just like you said, change can take a while but the results are so worth it! 😊

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  2. Esha M Dutta

    Lovely blog—so glad I discovered this! I can totally relate to this post…as I’ve been there myself. Its hard work but not altogether impossible to break out of the negative cycle. Mindfulness is something that works for me most of the time. We need to give ourselves the time to heal and recover most of the time and not be too hard. Do check out my ​writing blog Soul Talk. ​ where I talk of mindfulness and positive thinking.

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  3. HogriderDookes

    I have a very good friend who is a hypnotherapist. Some time back she gave me a couple of affirmations which although I was initially sceptical, have definitely helped me adjust things for the better. Safe to say I’m a big convert now.

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  4. kmarieyoga

    What great tips and insight! I’ve always struggled with negative self talk. One way I try to combat it is through a sort of “role play.” I imagine I am a friend. Would I say “you look haggard, worn out, ugly…” to a friend? No way! And I wouldn’t even believe those things to be true. It helps to step outside of myself to foster positivity.

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