A new way to think about life coaching?

I feel like I’m at a crossroads.

I love to inspire others and of course I love to be inspired!

This is what prompted my decision to enrol into a life coaching course as I wanted to gain the skills and qualifications to be able to better help people “live their best life.”

Here’s my issue…

My life coaching certification gave me an incredible amount of skills and knowledge to better myself. I found myself thinking “every human alive should do a life coaching course” as I really do believe that it’s a great tool for personal development. There’s just something that doesn’t quite “click” for me when I think of making a business out of it (yes, I have explored my limiting beliefs for any life coaches reading this lol)

I’ve explored the many “niches” of life coaches and out of 60+ options out there (Yes you can literally become a coach of almost any topic) there’s just something about it that doesn’t feel overly authentic to me.

Have I lost my faith in life coaching? Absolutely not, there are some incredible life coaches out there that are truly amazing and really have changed people’s lives for the better.

Despite my studies deterring me away from life coaching (for now) I did really enjoy the training and I genuinely believe that everyone can benefit from the skills that are taught – the younger the better!!

In school Math, Science and English along with some others are known as the standard go to classes. I think “life coaching” should be among those compulsory classes. I feel like there’s a huge gap to fill in our education system when it comes to teaching children/young adults some life skills that they will use in daily life.

Take a look at my Top 10 life skills taught in my life coaching certification and maybe that’ll help you understand why I think “life coaching” should be taught in schools.

  • Listening – That’s right, it turns out that listening isn’t just the ability to say, “I hear therefore I listen.” There really is so much more to learn about what listening means, the different types of listening and how we can be a better listener.
  • Emotional intelligence – Learning how to have the capacity to be aware of, control, and express your emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships wisely and empathetically.
  • Spirituality – Not religion. Coaching is holistic which involves understanding, supporting, and tapping into the mind body and spirit.
  • External communication – Rapport building, networking, body language, questioning. Basically, anything and everything that comes with communicating with others.
  • Self-communication – The way you talk to yourself (YES, we all do it!) Creating an awareness of our inner voice, what we say and why can have a drastic impact on your sense of well-being
  • Goal setting – How to set, track and achieve goals.
  • Self-management skills – Time management, priorities, accountability etc.
  • Values and beliefs – Belief systems in coaching don’t necessarily refer to a faith or religion but are more to do with self-beliefs. Some can be positive, and others can be negative. Identifying, challenging and changing any negative beliefs can be life changing.
  • Problem solving – From mundane everyday problems to more complex problems that may happen in a workplace. Learn exercises and tools to enhance problem solving skills.
  • Professionalism – How to conduct yourself with the greatest ethical standards while still maintaining the highest moral ground in your own life.

I know the above skills aren’t academic, but I really do believe they would help boost our human characteristics of kindness, patience, self-acceptance, and self-awareness.

So, what do you think? Let me know in the comments below.


  1. Interesting. I feel that health studies should be taught at school, eating , exercising etc. Having read your post I agree life coaching should be added. I haven’t been on a life coaching course. Though my friend has and put in touch with a newly trained coach, who I have yet to speak to.

    I even thought may be i should learn to be a life coach. But, something holds me back. So i get what you are saying in this post of yours. I guess you need to figure the root of what’s holding you back and decide if it valid or not.
    I heard someone say everyone needs a coach. Then I thought who is the coaches coach? Then i thought if coach only listens and asks questions and i have to figure it out and do all the hard work, what do i need a coach for ? Why don’t i do it myself?

    Thank you for sharing what you learnt i found it useful. Food for thought.

    Wish you the best with your decisions

    • I can relate to every word you just said.
      I think everyone should be their own life coach which comes back to your point that you do all of the hard work yourself anyway.

      I unfortunately have come across a couple of life coaches that portray themselves as a “model” coach when in fact it is all a facade for social media. It’s these sort of people that give life coaching a bad rep.

      I’m glad that you enjoyed my post and could relate! It’s nice talking to someone who understands my points 😊

  2. I totally agree. I think goal setting should be taught more in schools. I wish academics could help people find their purpose and not just a profession. I think life coaching will continue to fill that gap and I’m grateful for that!

  3. I think you have hit on a lot of important points here. My coach is my accountability partner, third-party objective listener, and one who asks me the tough questions about why I do (or don’t do) what I feel I am here to do. ❤️😉

  4. Hey Natalie,

    As someone who is currently looking into a life coaching course, I am happy to hear that you learned so much about yourself in the process. That is one of the things I am looking for. May I ask what program you did?

    In your comment above you mentioned meeting a couple coaches that think of themselves as “model”
    coaches. I agree, this doesn’t feel super authentic and gives the profession a bad name. Sadly, anyone can call themselves a life coach and have a charismatic presence on social media and people will eat it up, a clear sign that people are ready for an elevation in collective consciousness. For me, authenticity is paramount to coaching and the reality is that we are all a hot mess in at least one area of our lives. I think people get caught up in having to project the “perfect life” in order to feel secure coaching when in reality, vulnerability and showing up authentically is so much more powerful.

    I am sure you will find a way to coach that mirrors your values and ethics and who knows what the heck that looks like. As you said, there are coaches for just about everything.

    Love your thoughts, thank you for sharing. Much love to you. <3

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