“To accomplish great things we must first dream, then visualize, then plan… believe… act!” – Alfred A.Montapert
I watched a TED talk a couple of weeks ago by the amazing Patti Dobrowolski about drawing your future and it had me so inspired that today I gave it a go. I have been really interested in visual goal setting ever since I started reading more about the law of attraction and already have a vision board but thought this could be a great addition.
The power of visualisation is incredible. If you can make a habit to mentally visualise an image of what you want or who you want to be your mind will subconsciously start making your dreams a realty. Visualisation also creates an optimistic, positive mindset as you focus on the things you DO want rather than what you don’t and this in itself helps keep you motivated. Adding drawing as a visualisation technique activates the creative right-side of your brain which will help you see new possibilities.
I downloaded a copy of the free template from Patti’s website and also printed the icon guide for some inspiration for what to draw.
Here are some tips that really helped me put this together.
Choose a timeline – Whether it’s a week, a month, a year, or 10 years you’ll find it easier to think of your desired outcome if you put a time-frame on it, this will also help you think of your 3 bold steps.
Create a list – Write a list of your current reality, it doesn’t have to go into a lot of detail, it could just be key words like “stuck” or “bored.” Do the same for your desired new reality. If you’re like me and not a huge visual learner you will find the list as a good trigger for the picture you draw.
Get drawing – My original plan was to start on the current reality side before doing the desired reality side, but I found that once I had that visual of my current reality, I instantly knew what I wanted it to look like instead so drew that straight away.
Colour in – This was my favourite part! I chose to only colour in only the desired reality side of my future as I really wanted to absorb what my desired reality looks like and it also helped me think of what steps I needed to take to get there.
Set your 3 bold steps – So now you know what you want and what it looks like how will you do it? My desired reality is something I want to achieve over the next year so with each of my bold steps I have a list of smaller steps that I can tick off to keep me on track. You can put anything that you want in your bold steps, it can be as simple as “Write my resume” if you are wanting a job change. This is something that is totally tailored to you so there is no wrong or right answer.
This may not work for everyone but I had so much fun doing it and you never know you may discover that you are an incredible artist or in my case an incredible tracer lol.
I am SO overwhelmed and incredibly grateful to be nominated for The Kind Blogger award by Danielle from The Preemie-Mummy. This is special to me because the award (which Danielle created by the way) means my blog is doing exactly what I had hoped it would, which is to create a little inspiration and positivity in people lives all around the world. Danielle wrote a description of two types of bloggers she has discovered and I want to share with everyone her description of the type of blogger I have always inspired to be and that Danielle is.
“There are those who do it simply because they love it – they love writing posts, reading other people’s posts and are just happy and grateful to have readers who are interested in what they have to say.”
Thank you Danielle not only for the nomination but for creating this beautiful way of recognising the amazing people around us.
Be mindful of your self-talk. It’s a conversation with the universe. – David James
As I am going through my journey of becoming my best self I have found such an incredible amount of valuable practices, advice, wisdom and lessons to help me along the way. There is no denying that there is a cycle of thoughts, words, actions and attitude that impact everyday experiences. My latest challenge is what I say to myself and yes, I talk to myself a lot lol! I was so disappointed when I realised that the little voice in my head was the biggest negative Nancy I had ever met so I needed to take immediate action to turn her into a positive Polly.
Studies have shown that humans have anywhere from 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day but according to some research, as many as 80% of our thoughts are negative. This research really saddened me and got me thinking about my children’s future because self-talk patterns develop from the day you learn to talk and I want nothing more than for my children to be happy. I hope that by changing my own self-talk patterns it will create a positive habit for my children too.
Here are 3 quick tips to start your process
Mindfulness- Become aware of what you say to yourself throughout the day. We often start the day thinking about the things we don’t want to do or can’t do during the day which has a huge impact on the experiences we encounter. Set little reminders on your phone or sticky notes around the house to remind yourself to be aware of your thoughts so you can identify where you need change.
Find your trigger words- For me I have noticed I say, “I can’t” and “I won’t” way too much so I constantly have this on my radar. When I catch myself saying these phrases I replace them with “How can I” or “I choose” as it empowers me to open my mind and take control instead of giving up. For example, I caught myself saying “I can’t get all my studying done this month” so replaced it with “How can I get all my study done this month?” “I can’t” prevented me from thinking of ways around my situation where as “How can I” prompted me to find a solution to my problem. I now have a plan in place so I can get my study done and I feel far more positive and at ease.
Positive affirmations- Okay so you may roll your eyes at this one as there are probably a million books or cards out there with positive affirmations that people claim will change your life but guess what? Its true! If you create a habit to repeat a positive affirmation everyday that are focused on a goal or outcome your subconscious mind will create situations to make it happen. I have been repeating “My thoughts are under my control” as many times as I can throughout the day and I have noticed a positive change in being able to better control the frequency and severity of my anxiety.
Do you have a negative Nancy or a positive Polly floating around in your head? Dont feel defeated if negative Nancy is dominating at the moment as you CAN change by making some simple changes and I believe everyone has a positive Polly in there somewhere.
“Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.” – Tony Robbins
Following on from my post “6 Things That Made My January Extraordinary” I have decided that really reflecting on the previous months positives is quite therapeutic so here I am for February’s addition.
The best text ever – You know when you get a random text message and it leaves you smiling for the rest of the day? Well I had the pleasure of getting a text message with a video of my niece saying “Aunty Nat is my beautiful girl” and it made my entire day. I have played it a million times and it continues to make me smile.
New baby feels – We finally got to meet the newest member of the family (my children’s second cousin) and oh my goodness what a bundle of joy he is. His huge smiles are contagious and there’s just something that the joy a newborn brings that is so infectious.
I left the house – Okay so I wouldn’t say I’m a total hermit but when it comes to venturing out to places I wouldn’t normally go my anxiety kicks in and it takes a lot of convincing for me to go. When the mind body and soul festival popped up I HAD to go and what better motivation for me to go than knowing I would be meeting a new friend. It was such a good morning spent with amazing company and another step forward of taking control of my anxiety.
I lost my bridesmaid virginity – I have always struggled to have “girl” friends so I’ve never in my 27 years of life been asked to be a bridesmaid. My husband however is the groomsman in every wedding we have been to, so I’m normally stuck on the “random” table with the people the bride and groom had to invite lol! So when my bestie handed me a bottle of my favourite wine which had been personalised to ask me to be her bridesmaid it was a milestone in my life and I couldn’t be more excited!
My February was far from perfect and there is so much of life that is out of my control but how I respond is. It’s just as easy to sit and dwell on all the things that went wrong as it is to dwell on all the things that went right. In either situation whether you remember the good or the bad you are reinforcing all the feelings you had at the time and I think we can all agree that the feeling of happiness and joy is the one I would rather put my energy into.
As I am sat here writing this, the sun is shining, my children are playing peacefully, my husband is home safe from night shift and I’m enjoying a nice cup of tea. The negative of February has absolutely no impact on my present moment and February is exactly where it will stay.
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia
I’ve had “one of those days” today. You know those days when you feel exhausted but you don’t really know why and it only takes the slightest thing to irritate you? I was doing a quick dash to the shops to grab the one ingredient I was missing for dinner when someone stopped me and complimented my hair. I was a little bit confused as my hair was what I would consider a total mess but the kind comment made me smile none the less. It really got me thinking about compliments and how powerful they can be so thought I would dig a little deeper as to why we should do it more often and this is what I came up with.
It’s free – Seriously though, a compliment costs absolutely nothing but has the power to impact someone’s day so much more than any other gift you could buy.
It’ll create a snowball effect – When you give a compliment to someone they are more likely to compliment someone else or even give you a compliment back. The happy feeling you gave to one person then spreads affecting people everywhere.
Its selfless– Complimenting someone shows that you are paying attention to more than just what’s going on in your own world. It’s also a sign of genuine kindness and is a great demonstration of the person you are, especially if it’s the first time you have met.
You’ll see more good than bad – Once you have gotten into the habit of giving genuine compliments you will start to notice more of the positive qualities in people rather than the negative.
It can change someone’s life– Yep! We have all heard a story about how someones kind words have transformed another’s life. Your acknowledgement of someone’s efforts, actions or appearance can be the motivation they need to keep going.
So go out there, give someone a compliment but make sure its sincere. You don’t just get that warm happy feeling by receiving a compliment, you get it from giving one too.